Single Life and It’s Benefits

African American Woman

I didn’t choose the single life the single life chose me but that’s okay because when you’re single, you learn a lot about yourself and you tend to grow more have better standards for yourself.

Single Life Less Drama

My actions don’t affect another individual.

I can freely do as I please without having to constantly confirm with a significant other “hey, are you okay if I do this with my friend?” I don’t like asking for permission to do what I want to do. But I do understand that it is out of respect for that individual.

If I do something stupid in the long run, it’s just going to affect me and I’ll have to deal with the consequences of my actions. I’m a pretty smart girl with a good head on my shoulders so I really don’t have to worry about that.

Focusing on My Self

As of right now, my main focus has really been on myself and my goals that I have set for myself. Becoming a better person than the previous day and learning to accept that everyday isn’t always going to be a nice day but it doesn’t have to be bad either.

My previous relationship taking so much hurt from someone who I thought loved me when really it was me lacking love for myself.

Your happiness is NOT  your suffering.

I had to regain all my happiness. For 5 years I spent my days with a fake smile on my face. When people would ask me what was wrong, I couldn’t help but cry. I’m not writing this because I need a pity party. I got over it. I’m writing this because I know some people can relate being stuck in a one sided relationship.

Focusing On Myself

Self focus is important if you’re  looking for a new relationship and the reason behind that is:

If you learn to love yourself first. Anybody that comes into your life, they can never make you feel anything less than what you believe you are.

At that time I didn’t realize I didn’t love myself enough because if I did I wouldn’t have never let him hurt me that way that he did.

Single African American Woman

Meeting The Right Person

The main reason as to why I’m currently single is because I haven’t met the right person yet. I want somebody who compliments my personality and I can feel comfortable being me.

  • Late night conversations about everything that doesn’t make sense.
  • Traveling and doing fun things together that we both enjoy.
  • Creating moments that will last a lifetime.
  • Being able to work out our problems as a team.

I know I won’t find all those traits in one person (maybe I will ) but the goal of a relationship is to be with someone in the long run right? A person to build a future with. If the goal isn’t to get married then why be together? We might be passing up the person we’re destined to be with on a daily basis just because the time isn’t right.

Relationship are Good

This post pretty much makes me sound like a bitter person but really I do envy people who are in healthy and happy relationships.

The best thing about a relationship is creating a long-lasting bond with someone who knows you better than your mom and your best friend. If you think about it, that really runs deep.

We all deserve somebody whose going to make us happy and bring out the best in us.


What’s your outlook on being single? If your in a relationships what is it about that individual that makes you happy? What are some tips you can give others who are currently single and are looking?